How to REALLY seduce a guy

I came across a book by Jessica Rowling entitled “Seduction: How to Seduce the Man of your Dreams”. In her book, she mentioned that the way to become a woman of every man’s dream is to be the “prettiest, thinnest girl possible”.

In the book, Rowling quotes “…every man wants the prettiest girl they can find. You need to accept this is how men are, unless you want to be lonely or spend the rest of your life dating men who are below you.”

Rowling stresses that men are superficial and they are naturally drawn to pretty and thin women. And so if a lady truly wants to be who any man desires, she has to be perfect – meaning you need to have the perfect body, the perfect wardrobe and pheromone levels.

For a moment, I wanted to meet the author and engage in an intellectual debate with her. I can understand that for some reasons, Rowling means well and probably just wants to help any girl out there who wants to get the man she desires or be the woman every man wants, for that matter. But frankly, I don’t think I’d want myself to be with that kind of man (again).

There is nothing wrong with a woman wanting to look good, of course. I think every woman should be conscious of how she looks, but not to a level of excess. Who’s stopping you from wanting to have a gorgeous body like Jessica Alba’s or pampering yourself in a salon or getting a nice wardrobe?

Yes, men are highly visual creatures. There always has to be some sort of physical attraction involved to catch his attention. What I don’t get though, is the notion of ladies having to change for other people, let alone the men, just to put them in the throes of seduction.

Why not change for yourself?

It’s also the same as wanting to get pin-thin only because it’s what is mostly accepted as the standard of beauty. How many girls have turned out to become ‘something’ instead of someone they truly are because others have imposed upon them the need to change?

Why not change for yourself?

It’s not even worth trying to look good for, much less, seduce a superficial man – who measures a woman only on how she looks on the outside. Come to think of it, even if you have successfully seduced that so-called man of your dreams, how can you be so sure he’s going to stay with you through attractive and unattractive times? (Let’s admit it ladies, we all do have our ugly moments, too).

I am not keen with the idea of seducing a guy, unless there is an established connection between the two of us (winks). There are instances when people would ask me who I am trying to seduce with how I look, how I talk or how I act around everyone else. If a guy happens to notice, well thank you, it's flattering.

Change starts with yourself. It is when you have truly learned to love yourself, flaws and all, that other people will accept and truly love you. Look good because you want to, not because it’s what you think will appeal to men or please others. When you learn to love yourself, you naturally exude a positive vibe that people will find it hard not to notice. Who knows, you will finally be able to snag a man who will take you for who you are and not for what you have.

How to seduce a guy? Don’t even try, at the very least not too hard at all.